Traveling with your significant other is a beautiful and romantic thing to do. You will see the world together, experience other cultures, see amazing sights, taste delicious food and create many beautiful memories to share with each other.
Also, traveling with a partner can make things easier in a lot of ways. You’ll be able to help each other out, keep each other safe, support each other and make the trip easier on each other.
However, it can be extremely difficult. It’s not natural for two people to spend 24 hours a day with each other for such a long period of time, and you’re bound to have issues and conflicts along the way. You will get stressed, overwhelmed and annoyed with each other and it’s important to deal with it in a healthy way so your relationship is still intact by the end of the trip.
Here are some important things I’ve learned:
Realise When You’re Stressed About the Situation, Not Each Other
Traveling is amazing, but the truth is that sometimes the day-to-day experiences of travel really suck. When you’re trudging along with your heavy backpack in the 86 degree heat of India through busy streets because you can’t find the hotel, or when your bus is stuck in traffic on the highway for hours and you’re hungry and thirsty, travel doesn’t seem quite so romantic.
In these situations it’s easy to become miserable and start being snappy and impatient with your partner. However, this only makes things worse. It’s not their fault you’re in an unpleasant situation, it’s just part of being on the road. They’re probably just as bored, tired, hungry, thirsty, hot or miserable as you. Instead of letting the stress of the situation turn things into a fight, take a deep breath and stay calm. You’re in this together, so go easy on each other.
Try to Laugh When Things Go Wrong
The best thing to do in a situation like this is to laugh about it. My boyfriend and I were once on a bus in the mountains in Laos and at least seven of the locals riding the bus were suffering from motion sickness.
The bus floor was covered in vomit and we were holding our feet off the floor, trying not to breathe. When it didn’t seem like the puking would ever stop, we just looked at each other and started laughing at the absurdity of the situation. It was a pretty disgusting experience, but we could either let it ruin our day or we could laugh about it.
Don’t Spend All of Your Time Together
Spending every waking moment attached at the hip is not very healthy in any relationship, but especially when you are traveling. It’s really good for you both to have some time apart so you can each enjoy your separate hobbies and interests. For example, when my boyfriend and I are traveling, he will go to watch a football match on his own and I’ll go on a historic tour or visit an art gallery.
It’s a chance to enjoy activities and attractions the other person might not be interested in and have a break from being around each other all the time. You will have a chance to talk to other people and when you get back together you will have great stories to share with each other.